BRAIN RULES FOR BABY: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five by JOHN MEDINA pdf
Too many myths
Parents need facts, not just advice, about raising their children. Unfortunately, those facts are difficult to find in the ever-growing mountain of parenting books. And blogs. And message boards, and podcasts, and mother-in-laws, and every relative who’s ever had a child. There’s plenty of information out there. It’s just hard for parents to know what to believe.
The great thing about science is that it takes no sides—and no prisoners. Once you know which research to trust, the big picture emerges and myths fade away. To gain my trust, research must pass my “grump factor.” To make it into this book, studies must first have been published in the refereed literature and then successfully replicated. Some results have been confirmed dozens of times.
Where I make an exception for cutting-edge research, reliable but not yet fully vetted by the passage of time, I will note it. To me, parenting is about brain development. That’s not surprising, given what I do for a living. I am a developmental molecular biologist, with strong interests in the genetics of psychiatric disorders. My research life has been spent mostly as a private consultant, a for-hire troubleshooter, to industries and public research institutions in need of a geneticist with mental-health expertise.
The brain cares about survival before learning
Intelligence is more than IQ
Face time, not screen time
Safe baby, smart baby
Praise effort, not IQ
Guided play—every day
Emotions, not emoticons
I also founded the Talaris Institute, located in Seattle next to the University ofWashington, whose original mission involved studying howr infants process information at the molecular, cellular, and behavioral levels. That is howr I came to talk to groups of parents from time to time, like on that rainy Seattle night.
Scientists certainly don’t knowr everything about the brain. But what we do knowr gives us our best chance at raising smart, happy children. And it is relevant whether you just discovered you are pregnant, already have a toddler, or find yourself needing to raise grandchildren. So it will be my pleasure in this book to answrer the big questions parents have asked me—and debunk their big myths, too.
Here are some of my favorites:
Myth: Playing Mozart to your womb will improve your baby’s future math scores.
Truth: Your baby will simply remember Mozart after birth—along with many other things she hears, smells, and tastes in the womb. If you wrant her to do wrell in math in her later years, the greatest thing you can do is to teach her impulse control in her early years.
Myth: Exposing your infant or toddler to language DVDs will boost his vocabulary.
Truth: Some DVDs can actually reduce a toddler’s vocabulary . It is true that the number and variety of wrords you use when talking to your baby boost both his vocabulary and his IQ . But the wrords have to come from you—a real, live human being.
Myth: To boost their brain powfer, children need French lessons by age 3 and a room piled with “brain-friendly” toys and a library of educational DVDs.
Truth: The greatest pediatric brain-boosting technology in the w’orld is probably a plain cardboard box, a fresh box of crayons, and two hours. The wrorst is probably your newr flat-screen TV.
Myth: Continually telling your children they are smart will boost their confidence.
Truth: They’ll become less willing to wrork on challenging problems . If you wrant your baby to get into a great college, praise his or her effort instead.
- Quiet, please: Baby in progress
- The amazing pregaphone
- Let’s get it on
- When can your baby hear you, smell you?
- A balancing act
- 4 things proven to help baby’s brain
- Every little bit counts
- Most marriages suffer Seeds ofhope
- Babies seek safety above all
- How babies respond to stress
- The four biggest reasons you’ll fight
- “Nobody told me it was going to be so hard’
- The first step is awareness
- Make empathy a reflex: Two simple steps
- Prepare your relationship
smart baby: seeds
- What a smart brain looks like
- The intelligence of IQ
- What does it mean to be smart?
- Mom’s beef stew: 7 ingredients of intelligence
- Not on IQ tests
smart baby: soil
- The brain’s day job is not learning 4 ingredients you want
- 1.Breast-feeding is a brain booster
- 2.Talk to your baby—a lot
- 3.Hurray for play
- 4.Praise effort, not IQ
- The digital age: TV, video games, and the Internet
- No boob tube before age 2
- Video games: Don’t just sit there
- A cautionary tale about texting
- Mу baby is better than your baby
- The dangers of hyper-parenting
happy baby: seeds
- What is happy?
- The secret of happiness
- How to make friends
- Emotional regulation: How nice
- Where emotions happen in the brain
- Empathy: The glue of relationships
- Could happiness or sadness be genetic?
- No one gene for temperament
- Tendencies, not destinies
appy baby: soil
- Attentive, patient ping-pong
- Attachment takes years
- Parenting is not for sissies
- A terrific kid
- “Where do you go to get kids like
- Are babies born moral?
- Why don’t kids just do the right thing?
- How moral reasoning develops
- How the brain bridges facts and emotions
- Raising a moral child: Rules and discipline
- 1.Clear, consistent rules and rewards
- 2.Swift punishment
- 3.Explaining the rules
- Should you spank?
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