DON’T GIVE ME THAT ATTITUDE! : 24 rude, selfish, insensitive things kids do and how to stop them by Michele Borba.— 1st ed.
Confronting the Crisis
Dear Dr. Borba,
As much as I hate to admit it, our twelve-year-old son is becoming a spoiled brat. Frankly, there are times I’m just at my wit’s end! I love him to death, but I really don’t like what lie’s turning into: self-centered, inconsiderate, and downright rude! He only thinks of himself and can be quite flippant and fresh. I tell him to stop, I ground him and remove privileges, but his selfish, rude ways are still there. How do I get him to stop giving me this attitude? There has to be a better way!
—-Jenny K., a mom from Portland, Oregon
Sound familiar? These outbursts from selfish, rude, fresh, demanding kids are symptoms of a swiftly growing epidemic that is sweeping the country. Now this doesn’t mean there aren’t any good kids left in the world; of course, there are! In fact, studies suggest that this generation is volunteering more than ever before.
But let’s stay focused on the crisis at hand. It’s there, it’s growing, and it won’t go away until we decide it’s a big enough problem to do something about. Experts differ as to the most appropriate way to label this breed of self-centered, insensitive youth, describing their behavior with such psychological terminology as “overindulged,” “grandiose,” “narcissistic,” and even “egocentric-regressed.” Most lay folks agree that the plain, old-fashioned term “spoiled brat” fits just fine.
And it’s also a term that every parent dreads. “Not my kid! A big brat? Never!” It’s embarrassing, it’s humiliating, it’s the crisis we all dreaded might occur with our own sons and daughters.
Sow a thought and you reap an act;
Sow an act and you reap a habit;
Sow a habit and you reap a character;
Sow a character and you reap a destiny.
Even the word “spoiled” sounds as if it’s rotten: there’s nothing you can do about it, and you have to throw it away. But we’re not talking about apples and oranges here: these are our precious children, our loved ones, our hope for the future.
We can’t give up and abandon our most treasured human blessings, the relationships we most cherish. We can’t ever stop believing that we can make a difference in confronting this crisis, that everything we do now will play a crucial role in turning their lives around and shaping their ultimate destiny.
We must have faith that there is a way to help our kids defeat the negative consequences and long-term penalties of the Big Brat Factor.
Confronting the Crisis
- Exposing the Big Brat Factor
- What’s the Difference Between Attitude and Behavior?
- We’ve Got a Big Problem
- Where Is This Coming From?
- The Bad Attitude Intelligence Test
- Preventing the Worst-Case Scenario: Why You Better Start Changing Bad Attitudes Today
- Bad Attitude Emergencies: Immediate Intervention Needed
- The Seven Worst Mistakes in Trying to Change Bad Attitudes
- Bad Attitude Antidotes and Replacements
- Facing Our Own Hidden Demons
- How Do People See You?
- Your Own Attitude Makeover
- How to Use This Book
- Final Thoughts Before the Big Attitude Makeover
Twenty-Four Attitude Makeovers
- Poor Loser
Beyond the Crisis
- About the Author
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