How to be Charming in 2019 : 4 Psychological Tricks

We used to think of charm as an innate trait of character, but is it possible to learn it? We offer 4 Universal Psychological Tricks that will help you to be a charming person.

They easily attract attention and conquer others. They are always at the center of fun and make friends around the world. They have something magic that makes people want to spend as much time with them as possible.

Charm is not an innate quality, not genetically transmitted. These are special traits that make a person more attractive in the eyes of others. It’s all about habits and a special attitude to the world and of course, a few tricks that will make you a favorite among friends.

 “Common cause”

A charming person makes you feel as if you have known each other for a long time, even if you have just met. You may have different lifestyles and different interests, but you  feel like you have something in common. How do they do it? They focus on what you have in common.

It can be a similar life experience, a common interest in a topic, even if it comes down to one song. If you want to connect with a person, find common causes. The more them, the faster there will be a feeling of trust and mutual understanding. Feeling that the person is similar to us, we automatically begin to feel sympathy.

To find common ground, you need to listen carefully. When charming people listen to someone, they often insert the words “Yes”, “Exactly, it is”and” I Understand you.” This allows the interlocutor to feel that he is accepted and understand that his experience matters. We like people who make us feel these emotions.

“Be yourself, be real!”

Many people believe that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness. In fact, only those who are confident can be real. It’s inspiring.

Showing interest in people, you let to them to feel considerable: then they will associate this feeling with you! 

We often think that those we admire are flawless. They have everything under control, they do not make mistakes, achieve goals. We admire their strength and confidence. We perceive them as an ideal that knows the answers to all questions, while we are stuck in unsolvable problems. Therefore, manifestations of vulnerability and imperfection have a powerful effect on us. We continue to admire someone, but now we feel closer. We feel that we are similar.

“Be proactive!”

This is one of the main differences between charming people. They don’t wait for something to happen by itself. They take and do, even if the success is not the slightest confidence. We admire people who easily take responsibility and demonstrate faith in success.

This is one of the main differences between charming people. They don’t wait for something to happen by itself, they just do it, even if the success is not the slightest confidence. We admire people who easily take responsibility and demonstrate faith in success.

Their confident behavior has nothing to do with aggression or desire to dominate. The essence of charm — in the interest of other people, not the desire to come to the fore.

“Inspire”

We love these people because they make us feel good. Moreover, we are beginning to treat ourselves better, and this is a truly priceless gift. How do they do it? It’s very simple: they give you a sense of self-importance. And, most importantly, they do it quite sincerely, finding in each person something beautiful and unique.

Focus all your attention on the person in front of you − and he will be grateful. It doesn’t matter where you are − at your entrance or behind the scenes at the Rolling Stones concert. If you are  currently talking to the janitor, your attention should be given to him.

They laugh at jokes, always enjoy success and express it in words, infect you with a smile and optimism. They believe in you, thereby helping you to believe in yourself. They give attention without a trace. Listen carefully and ask questions. They bring with them positive energy and share it. They want you to feel good.

This positive attitude and belief that you are a wonderful and amazing person makes them irresistible in our eyes. For the sake of this feeling we are looking for communication with them. Charm may seem like a rare magical gift, but it is a question of habits, behavior and relationship to others!